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 Posted 15th April 2010 06:47 IP   
After numerous panic attacks, it appears I go back to work next month. Mocking aside, has anyone else returned after a length of time, (brat leave not counting  )
I wanna go back but slightly apprehensive. 
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Posted 15th April 2010 11:53 IP
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Yes and no. Which doesn't really help does it.
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Posted 15th April 2010 11:59 IP
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After numerous panic attacks, it appears I go back to work next month. Mocking aside, has anyone else returned after a length of time, (brat leave not counting )
I wanna go back but slightly apprehensive.
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I think that's normal if you've been off for a while.
I think you mentioned that you can go back part time to start off with, and I think that would be good so that you aren't chucked back in at the deep end.
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Posted 15th April 2010 12:02 IP
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Yes and no. Which doesn't really help does it.
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ask yourself this :
yes - why?
no - why not ?
Difficult one Ash not knowing the details, but imo, if you are not ready to go back and you do, and cant cope, it could set you back more ?
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Posted 15th April 2010 12:03 IP
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I think that's normal if you've been off for a while.
I think you mentioned that you can go back part time to start off with, and I think that would be good so that you aren't chucked back in at the deep end.
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That's the option, my fear is I'll fail and be signed off again. I'm out and about all the time, but I still fear that I'll feck it up. Mebbes I won't but HR will be waiting for me to fail I'm sure.
Not that I'm soft or anything.
I haven't had a panic attack since Feb, I've not even felt remotely depressed, but I'm not sure if that's me or just circs
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Posted 15th April 2010 12:21 IP
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ask yourself this :
yes - why?
no - why not ?
Difficult one Ash not knowing the details, but imo, if you are not ready to go back and you do, and cant cope, it could set you back more ?
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That's my worry Ericca. But on the other hand it's hard keeping oneself occupied being off all the time.
I'm half ready, I think, but I could do with being back spending a bit of money on lunch as opposed to spending loads of money keeping myself occupied as has been the case since Jan.
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Posted 15th April 2010 12:41 IP
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That's my worry Ericca. But on the other hand it's hard keeping oneself occupied being off all the time.
I'm half ready, I think, but I could do with being back spending a bit of money on lunch as opposed to spending loads of money keeping myself occupied as has been the case since Jan.
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Is there no way you can *ease* you way back in, ie go in as and when you feel up to it before you are due to go back?
As mm said it is natural to be a bit aprehensive after being away for a while.
You have been out and about which means you are recovering and you may find when the time comes to go to work, you may feel even better.
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Posted 15th April 2010 12:45 IP
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Is there no way you can *ease* you way back in, ie go in as and when you feel up to it before you are due to go back?
As mm said it is natural to be a bit aprehensive after being away for a while.
You have been out and about which means you are recovering and you may find when the time comes to go to work, you may feel even better.
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Thanks, E. Yeah, I've the option of returning part time (on full pay).
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Posted 16th April 2010 09:06 IP
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Thanks, E. Yeah, I've the option of returning part time (on full pay).
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Posted 16th April 2010 15:14 IP
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Doooo it
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Yeah, it's the most sensible option I think.
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Posted 16th April 2010 15:21 IP
Knowing what job you're going back to makes it easier, doesn't it ?
I mean, I have no idea what job I'll do next and the anxiety over it is quite stressful when the time comes.
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Posted 16th April 2010 16:02 IP
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Knowing what job you're going back to makes it easier, doesn't it ?
I mean, I have no idea what job I'll do next and the anxiety over it is quite stressful when the time comes.
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Oh absolutely, but having been off sick, one can feel slightly self conscious.
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Posted 16th April 2010 21:19 IP
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Oh absolutely, but having been off sick, one can feel slightly self conscious.
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Do they know why you've had time off? It might be a good idea to have a few thoughts about what you can do if you feel it's a bit much at any point, like walk to the water dispenser, wash your hands or just have a moment to collect yourself in the rest room.
Sipping water always helps so take a bottle to keep by your desk.
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Posted 22nd April 2010 13:32 IP
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Do any of your colleagues know why you have been off work? I was wondering earlier, whether that would be better or worse than them not knowing. You know?
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Posted 22nd April 2010 13:56 IP
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Volcanic Ash.
Do any of your colleagues know why you have been off work? I was wondering earlier, whether that would be better or worse than them not knowing. You know?
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Only a few people in HR and one other person know excatly why.
I left rather suddenly, I think the key thing would be if anyone asks. Not something I'd do myself but everyone's different.
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Posted 22nd April 2010 14:26 IP
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Only a few people in HR and one other person know excatly why.
I left rather suddenly, I think the key thing would be if anyone asks. Not something I'd do myself but everyone's different.
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That's what I'm thinking, it might be tricky if you get some nosy parker asking questions. Maybe if you prepare yourself beforehand, you can decide what to say to them.
When I started my new job (completely different situation, I know), I wasn't quite prepared to be asked about my previous job and so didn't know how much to share without making myself look bad. If I'd thought beforehand, I could've had an idea in my head how to answer the questions and keep some things to myself.
Then again, it made the front page of the gazette when trading standards shut them down.
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That's what I'm thinking, it might be tricky if you get some nosy parker asking questions. Maybe if you prepare yourself beforehand, you can decide what to say to them.
When I started my new job (completely different situation, I know), I wasn't quite prepared to be asked about my previous job and so didn't know how much to share without making myself look bad. If I'd thought beforehand, I could've had an idea in my head how to answer the questions and keep some things to myself.
Then again, it made the front page of the gazette when trading standards shut them down.
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I think I'll just say 'long story' and move along, that will be a polite enough way of saying 'mind your own business'
So your old lot got shutdown? Not before time either, they were well dodgy.
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I think I'll just say 'long story' and move along, that will be a polite enough way of saying 'mind your own business'
So your old lot got shutdown? Not before time either, they were well dodgy.
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Aye.
Will anybody pry anymore than that? Obviously it'll be better if they don't. .
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Aye.
Will anybody pry anymore than that? Obviously it'll be better if they don't. .
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Doubtful, it's a huge organisation and people come and go all the time, like on maternity leave, or career break and such. It's not somewhere you really notice people not being around as it's so big.
Plus, they are very good at looking after healthcare issues, and there is no problem about being off sick if you're legimately are sick, there is total job security (short of murdering a colleague or blowing the gaff up) so people that need to do so, take sick leave. A woman I know has been off since like July 2008! I was surprised to bump into her one day when I was in the office, she's a chatty sort, but it was clear she didn't want to talk too much, so it's not just me.
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Doubtful, it's a huge organisation and people come and go all the time, like on maternity leave, or career break and such. It's not somewhere you really notice people not being around as it's so big.
Plus, they are very good at looking after healthcare issues, and there is no problem about being off sick if you're legimately are sick, there is total job security (short of murdering a colleague or blowing the gaff up) so people that need to do so, take sick leave. A woman I know has been off since like July 2008! I was surprised to bump into her one day when I was in the office, she's a chatty sort, but it was clear she didn't want to talk too much, so it's not just me.
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Well that's good then, I suppose if it was a smaller company you may be haranged (is that a word?) into sharing it, sort of like the latest goss (ooh, you'll never guess why Ash hasn't been in work recently!! type thing) .
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Posted 22nd April 2010 14:48 IP
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Well that's good then, I suppose if it was a smaller company you may be haranged (is that a word?) into sharing it, sort of like the latest goss (ooh, you'll never guess why Ash hasn't been in work recently!! type thing) .
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Nah. We don't even have a really strict dress code, so when I go into the building wearing jeans and such, I'll bump into people around and about, say 'hi', and most will merely assume they've not seen me around for a while
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Nah. We don't even have a really strict dress code, so when I go into the building wearing jeans and such, I'll bump into people around and about, say 'hi', and most will merely assume they've not seen me around for a while
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Fair enough.
What are you most worried about?
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Fair enough.
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Well. I try and go to the office once a week for whatever reason, keeping my foot in the door, as it were.
Might be different full time though, although it's looking certain now, I'm not going back full time, if I can swing it I'll go part time until September. I think my worry is both the work which is a bit specific and whether my concentration is ok, as I can't know that right now, and the fact, I hated the 'communal' areas like the staff restaurant.
But my main worry is if I had to take time off again at any point.
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Posted 27th April 2010 15:52 IP
I've gone back after 4 months being disabled and also had 3 months off after being made redundant. It's not a nice feeling but I can understand how people who've been off a long time just settle into a routine of NOT working. You can find yourself watching daytime TV and not being able to wait until the next day to find who was the dad, etc, etc.
They showed a documentary on BBC 1 last night and it was hard for people to get back to work after being off. It's also tough if you sometimes take a drop in position and/or salary from your previous job.
My advice is to give it a go, maybe part-time to start with if you can. Ask if it's OK to go for a walk if you feel panicky. It's known that I sometimes need to take a walk during "work" hours because of my back. I went for a walk with my dog a while ago and feel better for it.
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Posted 28th April 2010 11:03 IP
Thanks AD, I'm actually boing back five hours a day, four days a week.
Which hopefully will work.
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Posted 28th April 2010 13:37 IP
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Thanks AD, I'm actually boing back five hours a day, four days a week.
Which hopefully will work.
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When? Now?
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When? Now?
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In two weeks.
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